Asian Noms: In Asia

November 12th, 2014

What: In Asia A Culinary Journey

Where: 181 Concord Road, North Strathfield Sydney, Australia

Why: Perfect for a first date


The menu does a really good job of combining all types of Asian food without leaning too much toward one specific cuisine. Everything tastes really fresh and the servings are the perfect size and beautifully presented.


If you are looking for a great night out this restaurant is perfect. The food is amazing and there is something for everyone, their take on Asian food is modern, perfectly balanced without being too westernised or too traditional.

This is the perfect first date venue. The food isn’t over priced but it’s nice enough so that she knows you made an effort. You aren’t packed in like sardines so there is some privacy, its casual enough to wear jeans to but you won’t look out of place if you dress up. Street parking is right out the front too.

The atmosphere is perfect, beautifully decorated with a modern hip vibe but not so hipster it hurts.

It’s noisy but not so much you will have to yell at each other or so quiet you will have awkward silences, the staff are attentive and polite, they have genuine knowledge of the food and what to drink with it, so don’t be afraid to ask questions or for recommendations.


Taste Test

My favourite way to order at any restaurant is to try a bunch of entrée items and share around, so that’s exactly what I did here.

We ordered

Pan-seared Canadian scollops with chilli puree and lime sauce, fresh pear



In Asia’s Rice Balls – Panko prawns, avocado cream, spicy mayo



Twice cooked horse radish fritters with prawn, peanuts and pork mince



Sesame-crusted tofu, Pure of char grilled capsicum, ginger, lemongrass and Asian slaw and Roti


And for Dessert?

Mrs B’s First Kiss

Organic banana lightly battered in shredded coconut and fried, palm sugar caramel, tapioca sauce, rice puffs served with passion fruit sorbet



Lychee Sorbet



They were all absolutely delicious

My Asian Fixation on TV

November 9th, 2014

I was recently asked to participate in a discussion about interethnic relationships in Australia on a TV show called #Talkaboutit

The show aired on ABC News 24 on October 25th

Check it out here :) or here




It’s getting Hot in here…

October 10th, 2014

A month ago I showcased two of the Cleo Bachelor Of The Year contestants, the only two Asian contestants, Thien Nguyen and Ronny Chieng.

This week Cleo announced their winner Thien Nguyen! Check out the official announcement here

Cleo Bachelor Of The Year 2014

Cleo Bachelor Of The Year 2014

It’s no surprise that I obviously agree with their choice, he definitely is gorgeous, Asian or not.

But what I am surprised at is the fact that an Asian man won what is considered one of the sexiest titles in Australia.

oh hey...

oh hey…

Ok it’s not the noble peace prize and just a bit of fun but It’s pretty rare to see Asian men portrayed as sex symbols/alpha males/attractive in western media. This competition was purely voted by readers of the magazine and based on physical attractiveness, something western people don’t usually associate with Asian men, If I had a dollar every time I have heard the phrase “I can’t tell if he’s hot or not because he’s Asian” or “He’s hot…. For an Asian”


Despite my obvious preference for Asian men I can tell if a man is attractive regardless of his ethnicity. It’s almost considered acceptable to state that you’re not into Asians but can you imagine the outcry if people said that about African Americans?

I can't tell if he's hot from afar... I may need to get closer

I can’t tell if he’s hot from afar… I may need to get closer

The Asian guy is usually the comic relief, the geek, the nerd, the second one to die in a slasher flick (after the toke African America of course) and that’s if he even exists, regardless though, African American men are often portrayed as the sex symbol on tv and in movies, so why not Asian men?

Mathew Moy as Han Lee from 2 Broke Girls

Mathew Moy as Han Lee from 2 Broke Girls

Glen from The Walking Dead? He kicks zombie ass and proposed to his girlfriend with a ring he ripped right off the hand of a female zombie. all together now “Awwwww”. I do love the show and have been known to put off uni assessments just to watch the latest episode but does it really take a zombie apocalypse to get a white chick to date and Asian guy?

Glenn and Maggie

Glenn and Maggie

How many carats it this?

How many carats it this?

I’m also pleasantly surprised to see John Cho as the male lead and romantic interest in the new show “Selfie” and his romantic interest? A red head! The show is growing on me and I love the original concept – a modern take on My Fair Lady. I hope there is a second season. Although John does play Henery Higgs, a work obsessed socially awkward geeky kinda guy, there is obviously romance blossoming for him and his fiery co star and I for one can’t wait.

John Cho and Karen Gillan in ABC's Selfie

John Cho and Karen Gillan in ABC’s Selfie

Is love in the air?

Is love in the air?

Love Is Not A Sales Pitch

October 1st, 2014

When you know, you know and when you don’t know… you don’t listen to your instincts and keep trying to convince yourself that it will click soon.

He’s a nice guy, give it once more chance, maybe he was just having an off day…. Maybe it is just me

Nope it’s either a “Hell Yes! Or Hell No!”

I’ve recently realised that it’s not me, it’s him and although he may be somebody’s ideal man, he just wasn’t what I wanted.




I should stop doubting myself, I know what I want, I know I can go for it if I want to and I know my heart will be shattered if he doesn’t want the same thing but that’s what I do, I wear my heart on my sleeve and give it my all, when I know.

When I don’t know, I give them one more chance… on more more, one more. It’s draining, heartbreaking and makes me feel like I’ve kissed one too many frogs and start to doubt my prince is out there.

Men have no problem when they know it’s not going to work, they don’t return calls, they rarely give second chances and don’t over analyse about whether it will work or not. They meet you, decide if you will provide them with what they’re after and if not, they walk away and don’t feel the least bit guilty about it.

So why can’t I do that? Why do I keep dating men who I know aren’t clicking with me, I know they have different morals, beliefs and goals, I know that when they kiss me there is nothing, I know that I don’t like the way they treat me or that the spark just wasn’t there.

First impressions count in my case, I think I’m good at figuring out a person pretty quickly, the problem is I rarely follow my instinct … and I always regret it later.

I regret “Magnum PI”, I regret not following my initial instincts that popped up pretty early on in our dates but I thought he was nice, sweet and good to me, so why not, just give it one more date? Now I feel awful, I feel like I’ve hurt someone and myself. It sucks.




Sure, I bought it but it was really like that super expensive dress that you buy regardless of the fact that it’s a bit too tight, doesn’t suit you and is made of completely impractical material that you know will start to fade after a few washes and requires intensive, tiring treatment, you always kept the receipt just in case and you never quite know if you will get a full refund.

I’ve decided to start living by the mantra, love shouldn’t be something you have to sell, it should just be there. There should be no grey area on either side, why would I want to be with a person who isn’t excited to be with me?

I know relationships aren’t a walk in the park, I don’t expect things to be effortless and just fall into place but there should be some sort of spark, followed by similar goals and morals, followed by attraction, butterflies and lust.

Call me a masochist and I’m sure there will be plenty of tears and more heartbreak but I’m still looking for that one and I won’t settle for decent, OK or “just a nice guy”




The First Time I …

September 19th, 2014

There are many firsts in a new relationship… first date, first kiss, first argument, the first time you meet his friends, the first time you meet his family and the first time you spend the night together.

But there is one first every girl dreads, it’s something most people have no control over and something girls are not supposed to do.

Yes… I’m talking about the first time you let one slip in front of him, the first time you fart.





Oh come on we all do it, as much as you try not to, it just happens, it’s part of life and part of being a human being. I’m sure even “Captain Vietnam” let out the odd fart… although it would probably smell like roses and fairy floss.

First things first, I’m a firm believer that this should be an accident, I could never be in any sort of relationship where openly farting is acceptable, I think some things should be kept for when you are alone or in the privacy of your bathroom.


The right way to handle things when they crop up :p

The right way to handle things when they crop up :p


I remember a turning point for me and K-Doc was when he openly farted in front of me…. What,.. Did he just? Oh my god!

I looked at him “um did you just?”


Cue uncomfortable silence and really long pause, OK “seriously?”

He then launched into a long rant about how it was healthy to let them out and causes damage if you don’t.

OK but surely not on date 3, in a confined space and a loud one at that. Has anybody actually died from holding in a fart? I doubt it.

There is just no coming back from that. We all know we do it but I think most people would prefer to be blissfully ignorant and pretend the person they love doesn’t do those sorts of things.

Luckily for me, mine was a cute little squeak and I was instantly able to laugh it off, which is what got me into trouble in the first place. I do however, have the feeling there will always be BTF and ATF (Before the fart and after) and there was a slight shift of energy, it was most likely positive and believe it or not I think we are now that little bit more comfortable around each other.

I spent the next few hours trying to be serious so as to not let another one slip before I gave in and realised “Magnum PI” was still hanging around despite my slip up and like the gentleman he is, he hasn’t mentioned it since.

This is the way you should handle it if your girlfriend lets one slip guys, fake momentary deafness, if you can’t stop your reaction and burst into laughter (and if you don’t find a fart funny, gently remove the pole that’s stuck up your ass and try again) give her a hug, do not flee the room in fear and never mention it again, if she brings it up, have a sudden loss of memory and pretend it never happened.


As far as you're concerned...

As far as you’re concerned…

Deadly Side Effects of My Asian Fixation

September 17th, 2014

Besides the inevitable problems of being a a Caucasian woman who digs Asian guys, such as “We can never work because of a) Cultural differences b) My parents won’t let me date a non Asian girl or C)I’m too scared to talk to you and you’re too scared to talk to me”, there are a few other problems that impact my daily life, all because I have a thing for Asian guys.

I live in an area highly populated by Asians, so whenever I leave my home, the chances of seeing gorgeous Asian men are greatly increased, therefore I feel like I always have to be on my game. There are no midnight runs to Coles in my trackies for snacks and no walks of shame on a Sunday morning to the café with bed hair and bloodshot eyes for a well-deserved caffeine hit.

When it comes to working out? Forget it.

A friend once told me she went to her local gym because she thought it was a good way to meet men, I think most people at the gym spend just as much time checking each other out as they do themselves in the mirror, this wouldn’t bother me so much if my local gym wasn’t full of Asian guys.

I’m not one of those girls who gets a few strands of hair delicately falling out to frame her face while she glows with a pretty pink flush after a workout. When a pale girl with fine hair works out, she ends up with frizz everywhere and a blotchy rash like redness to her cheeks… and forehead and chest and well everywhere, people stare with concern because I look like I’m about to have a heart attack, which then makes me blush even more because everyone is staring at how red I am…



When normal girls work out

When normal girls work out


When pale girls work out

When pale girls work out



And then there is the most humiliating aspect of having a soft spot for Asian men, visiting the doctor.

So anytime I have some disgusting/embarrassing/contagious thing going on and have to visit my doctor I’m standing in front of the doctors on duty sign to find the most western name I can.. “Dr Nguyen… nope, Dr Lee…. Hmm maybe, Dr Chong… oh hell no!”





I then weigh up my options, am I dying? Maybe I can wait this out? Could I just call K-Doc and get him to write me a prescription? No I’m going to take my chances

“I’ll just take the first available doctor thank you”


Weighing up my options

Weighing up my options


So there I am sitting in the waiting room, I have an ever so attractive phlegmy old man cough, combined with a stomach grumbling so loud I think its setting car alarms off outside, when out walks Dr Nguyen, he’s tall, has an adorable smile and arms I could cuddle into all night long.

“Don’t call my name…. don’t call my name”


Crap again.

By the time I drag my sorry looking ass into that little doctors room, I could care less that this cute, smart, friendly doctor who isn’t wearing a wedding ring is smiling at me, waiting patiently.

OK here goes “I can’t shake this cold I’ve had for almost two weeks, it seems to be getting worse, I can’t keep food down and my ears are blocked”

He pulls his chair close as he gives me a sympathetic look, leans over and asks me to take my jacket off, I take a deep breath as he puts a stethoscope to my back, if you couldn’t hear my congested squeaking as I attempt to take in air, this would be super romantic.

“Now I’m just going to have a look in your ear” he sweeps the hair away from my face and puts that ear thingy in my ear, I can hear him breathing, he’s close enough to kiss me… and as he pulls away I see a crumb of my ear wax on that ear thingy… wow this is the grossest date doctors visit I have ever experienced.

For you, Dr McDreamy

For you, Dr McDreamy


“You have a virus” he tells me as he writes out a prescription “you should take a few days off work to rest and make sure you don’t give it to anyone else”

This is the stuff Danielle Steel novels are made of, totally hot right? As the ice cold, hot again and back to cold sweat starts to build on my brow, I can’t decide if I’m going to faint or throw up.

As we finish up, he makes small talk about where I work, I suddenly feel a rush of energy, it could be from the hot doctor or possibly the excitement of having permission to take time off work. I tell him all about my fabulous job and how much fun it is while I do my best eyelash fluttering and hair flicking, he stands up to open the door for me and asks me to come back and see him soon, I ignore the part where he says it’s to check up how the antibiotics are working and pretend we are having a moment and then just when I’m convinced he’s falling in love with me, I start to cough, and cough and cough and I can’t stop, my face turns red and I have no choice but to try and leave the room while keeping what little dignity I have left, intact.

Therefore I am basically sacrificing my health for my fetish. It’s a hard job but somebody has to do it.


This is red pale girls get just walking into the gym

This is how red pale girls get just walking into the gym


Cleo’s Most Eligible Asian Bachelors

August 25th, 2014

Cleo Magazine is a popular Australian Women’s Magazine and I would bet that every Australian woman has flipped through the pages at some stage in her life.

Every year they hold The Most Eligible Bachelor Of The Year Awards, where several gorgeous men (famous and non famous everyday spunks) are chosen, the men are featured in the magazine and then all the readers get to vote on who they think would best be able to live up to the tough and gruelling position of Cleo’s Bachelor of the Year.

It takes a special man to be able to convey many different looks of hotness through the pages of Cleo. And as voters, we have an extremely hard job to do, we have to whittle down all those gorgeous men and find the perfect specimen of sexy but not so sexy you can’t bring him home to mum, charming but not so cocky that he thinks he can date your mum and friendly enough so that your mum would love him (not too much of course because all white girls secretly want to rebel against our mothers).

Check out the final 30 bachelors here.

It may seem like an impossible task but I’m here to help you narrow down the choices, firstly we can cross off 28 of the 30 chosen ones because only 2 of them are Asian … duh! This is

So introducing…


Of course he owns a shirt

Of course he owns a shirt


see… Photos owned by Thien Nguyen Facebook


Thien Nguyen, he’s 28 and a personal trainer (obviously)

I have a soft spot for this guy as I saw him on Studio 10 with one of my career idols, founding editor of Cleo in 1972,  Ita Buttrose, check out the video here

He seemed to be really positive and full of energy, his smile will make your heart melt and, oh yeah he’s damn hot too.

And then there is…



Photo from The Loop


Ronny Chieng, he’s 28 and a comedian

What girl doesn’t want a guy to make her laugh, Ronny’s profile and interview were cute and funny, he obviously doesn’t take himself too seriously which is seriously hot, I love a guy who can laugh at himself and be confident with who he is. And I’m not going to lie, after a few minutes of Googling this guy I was in stitches, not an easy feat considering the sour mood I’ve been in lately. Check out some of my favourites on YouTube here and here

Obviously I would have liked to have seen more than two of our eastern hotties representing but hey, if there can only be two, I think they chose two pretty fine specimens of hotness.

I think considering neither of these guys are doctors, accountants, engineers or international criminals, we are slowly starting to have more positive and unique Asian Men portrayed in the media and regardless of who wins, I am pretty damn happy to see these two in the top 30 ;)


"What? Chow not good looking enough for woman"

“What? Chow not good looking enough for woman”


So make sure you head over to Cleo and vote for your favourite (Asian) Cleo bachelors

Decisions, decisions, do you want laughs or the body? Or both? (You can vote more than once)

Hello Kitty Giveaway CLOSED

August 22nd, 2014

Thank you to everyone who entered, the competition is now closed.


To celebrate the launch of the new My Asian Fixation and thank my subscribers, I am holding a Hello Kitty Typo giveaway.

You may be aware of my Hello Kitty fascination since visiting Japan and what girl doesn’t like a little Hello Kitty in her life! This giveaway is perfect for any Hello Kitty fan or as a gift to that special girl in your life.

I raided one of my favourite Australian stationery stores, Typo for their Sanrio Hello Kitty Range and bought my favourite products, The prize includes everything you see below.

Hello Kitty Prizes!

Hello Kitty Prizes!

Want to win all this?

Want to win all this?




Prize Details

1 x Boston Travel Wallet

1 x Boston Luggage Tag

1 x Easy On The Eye Travel Mask

1 x Buffalo A5 Journal

1 x Archer Pencil Case

1 x Sticker Book

1 x Flat Wrap Paper


The Rules

To enter you must

Subscribe to this blog either via email or on Bloglovin

Like My Asian Fixation on Facebook

Leave a comment below or on the Facebook page telling me what you would like to see more of on My Asian Fixation.

Entry is open world wide

There is one prize winner

The winner will be chosen randomly and contacted via email and announced on September 13th 2014

Entry is open from August 23 2014 and closes September 13th 2014

You can also follow My Asian Fixation on Twitter, Instagram

Good Luck!

AMWF Spotlight – Essiebutton and Aslan

August 19th, 2014

We all know how rare AMWF couples are but I the more I blog and the more involved I get in this community, I notice there are quite a few of us around and while I think we will always be a minority, there are some public couples who are removing the stigma and are hard to ignore.

I thought I would shine the spotlight on some of my favourite AMWF couples.

I wanted to start with one of my favourite couples famous in the YouTube world.


Estee and Aslan

Aslan and Estee


Who: Essie Button and Aslan

Where: London

Click Away

Essie’s Beauty YouTube Channel



Aslan’s Twitter




What The Deal?

Essiebutton (real name Estee) is a Canadian beauty blogger who met her man, Aslan online, after months of chatting, they embarked on a US road trip together and now live together in London.

I’m not quite sure of Aslan’s was born in Kazakhstan and has a slight obsession with the country, he speaks Russian, has a dashingly impressive English accent and now works in property in the UK.

Estee’s job is YouTube and she does it well, while some beauty bloggers hit “fame” or a certain number of followers and then start slacking off on blogging (cough cough… um sorry guys) Estee continually posts great videos, Vlogs and updates her blog regularly which I think makes her even more likeable, I love watching her channel morph into lifestyle as well as beauty and she has remained humbled even with her growing YouTube fame.

I just find these two adorable and easily to relate to, even if they are slightly hipster. Estee is so likeable and Aslan has perfected the Asian poker face while still managing to be adorkable on occasion, there is no over the top PDAs and they seem really open and honest without over sharing. Their Vlogs are entertaining, fun and quirky and they are in love with their furry child, a greyhound named Reggie.





I love how supportive Aslan is of Estee’s career and interests, even building her a beauty desk from scratch and they seem like best friends as well as a couple. Aslan seems well-traveled, modern and cultured, often cooking for Estee and they are always on the hunt for arty stuffs, good food and something new and exciting. I love their interest in living a better life and exploring the world, they obviously compromise and appreciate each others unique interests. They don’t seem to take their relationship for granted and obviously work at it.




These two don’t really speak too much about the AMWF dynamic, although during Q&A videos, Aslan often talks about his Asian expectations, like having children at a young age and Estee has mentioned her love for Asian men during some early vlogs.

I do realise with all social media, we try to present the best version of ourselves, regardless of what’s going on in our lives and obviously things aren’t always as perfect as they seem but these two seem like they are in it for the long haul, a very happily ever after.




My New Fixation

August 16th, 2014

For a while now I have been working on making My Asian Fixation a self-hosted blog, I’ve been working with blog designers to create a new look and have registered the domain

I will be expanding my obsessions to include other aspects of Asian sub culture I’m obsessed with (not the just the men) and updating more regularly. I will also be holding a giveaway to launch the new blog and it will be open to all subscribers world-wide.

What started out as a fun way to distract myself from uni assignments and rant about weird dates has morphed into this great little community where I have met amazing and interesting people and opened my mind to new adventures. will be officially launching on July 18th 2014.

The best way to stay in the loop is to like the new page on Facebook, you can also follow My Asian Fixation on instagram and bloglovin @myasianfixation

I apologise in advance if there are any issues during migration as this is my first time having a self hosted blog, I genuinely appreciate each and every subscriber and comment, and love that you guys never point out my typos and get my sense of humour, so I hope they all transfer across smoothly and we don’t have any issues once the new site is launched.